I guess by now I should expect things to change rather suddenly and dramatically, hey?
Wow – this afternoon’s Family Session was SO not what I was expecting!
When I arrived at the clinic with my heart racing and my head spinning, I was totally thinking that we were gonna pick up from where we left off yesterday.
But it was not to be …
Son#1 was told not to come into the room while the Terrible Tag Team addressed the X and me about an issue they had with him, a problem that had cropped up.
You see, Son#1 had not been entirely honest with them about something. That’s all I can really say about the matter, but they took it VERY seriously. So much so in fact, that they decided to ask him to leave the facility for 36 hours, to go away and reflect on the situation and compile a “contract” that he must present to them when he returns on Thursday morning. The contract is basically his written agreement to follow the rules they feel he’s broken.
As an aside, I must just let you know that while they were addressing us abut the issue, I corrected them on stuff put forward to me that was not entirely true. It was stuff that made me look like I was also deliberately breaking their rules and neglecting to take action on an issue. This was all stuff that the X KNEW about and chose to keep quiet on. It would have cost him NOTHING to set them straight but he actually sat their and shook his head, like he agreed with them. Pratt. I was NOT going to let that happen, I was NOT going to allow them to draw a conclusion about the situation (or me) that wasn’t true.
Yes, my friends, I “opened my bloody mouth” … and I kept going, even when they started interrupting me!! If they think that’s some “defensive thing” I’ve got going on then tough shit. No more lies!
*pats self on back*
Anyway, Son#1 is here with me now at home and there are some strict rules in place that the Terrible Tag Team want, in order to ensure his safety. No telephone, no computer, no mobile and no contact with anyone outside of the family. Needless to say, he is NOT a happy chappy!
If Son#1 does hit a speed wobble, I can call the clinic for help and I can even ask one of the counselors to come and fetch him, if things get out of hand.
So … this afternoon took a completely unexpected turn, but I’m cool. I’m not stressed at all actually. I wonder why?
That’s a good idea – I’ll raise that at a Family Session!
#JustBcoz a “contract” that he must present to them when he returns on Thursday morning. The contract is basically his written agreement to follow the rules they feel he’s broken.
I believe he needs to draw up a similar contract with you for when is at home with you.
Yes, it does feel good to have had my say!
“It’s a mom thing” … I guess so 🙂
Must feel good to finally have had your piece.
I think you’re relieved coz he’s home. Where you can watch him. Its a mom thing. According to my mom.
It is not possible to handle things correctly if one is not given all the information required. Just keep on speaking out when they are misinformed or try to steam roller you.
“allowing anyone to live in your head rent free is a costly expense” This from Nats hits the nail on the head and doesn’t it feel just great taking some of your power back…allowing yourself to be heard? So proud of you for this!!
Son#1 has made a mistake and that’s ok…….he’s also allowed to be pissed off, which is most likely more directed at himself inside than at anything or anybody else ‘cos he knows he screwed up. The H.O.W is Honesty open Mindedness and Willingness (from Nats again) and when he has HOW nailed he wins…big time and he will!!!
Thanks Steve.
We slept tight – no drama during the night 🙂
I *think* he gets their reason, not too sure though … we’ll see how seriously he takes drawing up the contract today, and what he puts in there.
Well first of all, congrats on opening your mouth 😀 Seriously well done!
As for Son#1, as long as he understands why they have made the decision they have. Good luck and sleep tight 🙂