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Lessons from my Father

There are always two sides to every story and things are never as they first seem …

Of course you can do it! You’re stronger than you think

You can never force anyone to love you.

Live within your means and don’t take anything for granted.

Do whatever it takes to get the job done.

You can’t please all of the people all of the time.

Honesty is always the best policy.

It’s not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it.

Nothing lasts forever – accept the impermanence of life.

And chew with your mouth closed!


Love you Dad. Happy Father’s Day xxx

First braai since forever

So yesterday was my Dad’s birthday and to celebrate, we had our first braai in AGES!


Thanks for doing all the “manly” work Sir G – you did great 🙂


The Birthday Boy 😀


With his grandboys …


Nice to have Son#1 back at home, even if it was just for the arvy.
(Eat some more, baby – you’re getting skinny!)

Dad – I hope you had a good time …

Good luck on your new travels today.

Dear Dad

Dear Dad,

It’s Father’s Day and I want to use this as an opportunity to publicly state how much I love you and how grateful I am to have you as My Dad …

It took me a long time to really understand and fully appreciate all that you have done for me over the years. You are the one person who has been in and part of my life for all my 37 years. Since day one you have done nothing but love me and do everything you possibly you could to nurture me, support me, guide me and teach me how to be more than I could imagine.

Even in the most difficult of times, when I made choices that opposed what everyone else was telling me to do, you stood by me, you never judged me, you were never harsh with me – you only ever backed me up. 100%. Back then, you helped me to believe in myself and realize that I am courageous and capable. And more recently, you’ve done the same again, challenged me to have faith in myself and value who I am.

I know we had our share of run-ins … what parent/child relationship doesn’t go through some turmoil? Especially during those teen years – how you managed to cope with my bratty, spoilt behaviour is remarkable! I guess it took me having my own teens to cope with to truly value just what an amazing parent you’ve been, how gentle and wise you are. Your unconditional love let me know that nothing I ever did would diminish your love for me, that you would always be there for me and do your best for me. You never got crazy with me, even though I know I gave you good reason to at times =) You’ve just never been invasive or bossy – all your loving guidance has been offered with calm, matter-of-fact reason … it still is and it’s perfect for me.

You always encouraged me to be my own person, to trust my instincts and to stand up for myself. By example, you showed me that it’s ok to take risks and I am forever thankful that you passed your entrepreneurial inclinations on to me. Without you paving the way for me in that way, I doubt if I would be where I am today – able to earn a decent living and take care of myself. You’ve taught me that honesty and integrity always wins, that strength of character and perseverance will triumph in the end.

No-one knows me better than you do … perhaps because we are so alike in many ways =) When my divorce became final last year, you were the only one who didn’t whoop for joy and congratulate me. No, you knew how intensely sad I would be feeling and you let me know that it was ok to be broken. Your empathy and strength has been my life saver. More than once, when I’ve felt helpless and betrayed, you’ve defended me against those who have been unjust. And I am truly thankful that you’ve always let me know that I am special and lovable, that I am valuable and that I don’t have to take shit from anyone.

We were a bit different to most families – it wasn’t the norm for a man to raise his little girl on his own back then. For many years, it was mostly just the two of us … and I wouldn’t have changed one little thing about that. I remember how excited I used to get when I knew you were coming home from work. I used to wait patiently for you to finish the Bovril and cheese toast that Topsy made for you and then dive onto your lap for a cuddle and a chat. Or a tickle and a laugh. I remember you tucking me into bed and going through our little goodnight ritual in Italian =) Treasured memories …

We’ve been through a lot together and we’ve always stuck by each other, becoming indescribably closer in spirit with each passing year. We don’t often hug or say “I love you” and yet, that’s ok. Somehow our bond doesn’t require those actions or words to be strong. I know I am Daddy’s Girl.

Dad, for the record: I love you, so very much. Thank you for everything – I could not have hoped for a better man to be my father.

All my deepest love and gratitude,


Nearly weekend and I’m a lucky cowgrrrl

Weekend already!? Wow, where did the week go?

So, what are my plans for the next coupla days you ask?

Hmm …. Well, I could just copy and paste my post from last Friday to show you what’s on the agenda. Yes, sadly, apart from a rather fun Poker Night with Cowgrrrl, not much else got accomplished =( I still have many, many boxes to unpack, I still have a super messy room and cupboard, I haven’t done any of that “light reading” and my roots are still lighter than the rest of my hair … plus, I now have the added task of debugging some code that ain’t working. And, of course there’s The Dreaded Weekly Grocery Shopping to do. Grimness.


How is THIS for The Most Awesome News Ever?? Sir G has just told me that he has bought us tickets to see SEETHER live at the Grand West Arena on Sunday!! I am such a lucky brat.


I can’t believe it, I am sooooooooo excited =)

“Thank you Sir G”

And even more good news (but not nearly as thrilling) is that I have now hired someone to come in and help me with my iMac! There’s something wrong with my wireless thingymabob so it can’t connect to anything yet. At least that mission is off my plate and it’ll soon be on the network, talking to all the other machines and hooked up to the interwebs. STOKED! Then all I need to do is install … ok, that could take a while as I have TONS of software that I use every day, and even more that I want to test but don’t have space to load up on this old dinosaur.

I’m not sure if I’m going to be able to unpack boxes this weekend. I have done something to my back and it hurts like hell. I can’t even find a comfortable position to sit in, so I doubt if I’ll be able to dive into all these cardboard monstrosities. Dunno what the hell I’ve done. I think I may have tweaked it at gym doing all those crunches over a stability ball. Jeesh, I must really be getting old! But I don’t care if they have to carry me out of the concert, I’m gonna have a ROCKING good time and I can’t wait =)

Hey, it’s FATHER’S DAY on Sunday – hope you haven’t forgotten! Perhaps my Dad and I can get together and have a bite to eat somewhere. That would be nice.

And Monday is a public holiday, so I’ll have an extra day to make a dent in that Great Wall of China To Do List and get some shit done.

I really hope my horoscope (or should that be horrorscope?) for tomorrow is wrong … how’s this for a daily dose of encouragement:

“Today is going to be a series of ‘Oh no’s.’ You can’t even believe how many little things can go wrong in 24 hours. And it’ll take A LOT longer than that amount of time to clear everything up. What a freakin’ mess.”

Honestly … How RUDE! I don’t buy into this rubbish, but just in case, fingers and toes crossed that this is all crap and please send happy pink bubble vibes …

Hope you all have a good one!