Posted April 16th, 2009 by justBcoz in Friends and Family, Kids, Personal []
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Just one more sleep until my “baby” turns 18 …OMG, there’s a whole lot of Over the Hill issues right there!

Jeez, I can’t frigging believe it. 18 years ago, I was in the middle of my 24-hour labour, gearing up to squeeze out my little girl. Yup, he was supposed to be a girl! I had pink blankies and everything wah!

Anyhoo … so tomorrow’s his big day and he’s organized a braai at a spot in Obs for all his nearest and dearest. That includes the X. And the X’s brothers …

So, yeah … that’s going to be tricky. Not so much with the younger uncle who I get along quite well with (he’s my age), but with the X’s twin, who lives in the UK. My last conversation with him was on the phone, just after the X had moved out. I’ll never forget what he said to me: “Yes well, if you were MY wife, I would have slapped you ages ago!” I haven’t spoken to him since.

I was incredibly upset at the time. Deeply hurt that someone could compound the pain of what I was going through with such unjustified cruelty. But then I decided “Fuck him. Fuck them ALL!” That whole side of my family was *obviously* going to side with their blood kin and I gave up trying to vindicate myself. I let them blame me, scold me and badmouth me because I knew that trying to defend myself to them would just seem pathetic and desperate.

They all lay the blame firmly at my feet. The X can do no wrong in their eyes and you know what? That’s fine with me because *I* know the truth and the people who matter to me also know the truth, no matter what lies were spread about me (and yes, I got to hear about some SHOCKERS). Not ONE of them bothered to talk to me about the situation or find out my side of the story. I’ve known these people for 30 years.

But, they are not my family anymore. I divorced out of their clan just over 2 years ago and they no longer have any hold over me. I’m not remotely interested in their lives and if I never had to see any of them again, that would be absolutely fine with me. But … I have to face them all tomorrow. And I shall, for my boy.

One good thing – SHE’s not going to be there. Her kids are though. That’s cool – they’re just kids and they had nothing to do with the ugliness. But she had everything to do with it and I told Son1 that I wouldn’t go if she pitched up. No way. Not for all the tea in China would I want to be around someone who (at HER bloody age) should have damn well known better but whom deliberately and cruelly set about to rip apart our family. If I ever see her again, I’m quite ready to beat the shit out of her.

Mmk, so then next thing that’s on my mind is that Son1 is doing his driver’s test at the crack of dawn tomorrow. (Good luck my boy!!!) And the X is buying him a car, which I am totally against. I’m not anti my boy getting a car, no … I’m anti the fact that it’s just being bought for him – a brand new Ford Fiesta (apparently). I think it’s crazy, over-the-top-spoiling. I would have liked to see him do something to EARN the car, instead of it just landing in his lap, with absolutely no effort on his part whatsoever. It’s not right.

*sigh*

justBcoz
  1. Chris M says:

    Argh, well put it this way, you’ve got a massive support team coming along and we all think you’re the shit, so wah!

    Big 18, wow! Pink blankies, omw, ROFL!

  2. justB[coz] says:

    Thanks Chris :D

    Yip … pink blankies for “Alexandra” wahahaha!

    And having the doc say: “You’ve got a beautiful baby boy” was a SERIOUS WTF moment!

  3. StevenMcD says:

    lol! that is a serious WTF!

    Good luck for the braai love, you’ll be fine :) I have to agree though, I was highly upset when my parents didn’t buy me a car but now I appreciate it. I had to work my ass off for my little Atos!

  4. Mom says:

    yep, you’ll be surrounded by the most awesome support team and those who don’t deserve to be in your space, won’t be =)

  5. justB[coz] says:

    Yeah … I’ll be fine :-)

    Knowing that lot, they’ll just carry on like nothing’s ever happened. It’s cool,as long as Son#1 has a good time on his birthday, I’m happy.

  6. Dad says:

    Knowing that lot, they’ll just carry on like nothing’s ever happened.
    SPOT ON!!!

  7. angel says:

    Oh lawdy I am so lucky that I never had to deal with my son’s father or his family…