Posted November 27th, 2008 by justBcoz in Kids, School []
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So … an update on Son#2 and it’s sad news I’m afraid.

He has not passed Grade 8.

Yeah, his headmaster called me yesterday to tell me and the X and I went through to the school to meet with him today to discuss the issue and decide what to do. No, that was *not* an easy meeting!

I think the headmaster was really concerned that the X and I would fight against Son#2 repeating the grade, but we both feel strongly that he needs to be kept back. It wasn’t a close thing either. He’s done very badly this year …

We’re sending him to an educational psychologist for a full assessment and arranging for various therapies to help him. And things at home (both the X’s and mine) are going to have to change a bit to provide him with more structure. Eish.

He really loves his school – he’s so happy there and he’s come out of his shell completely over the last year, perhaps a bit too much – he’s gone from zero to hero amongst his peers and lost focus on the reason why he is there in the first place. He’s starting to get into trouble and display some rather dodgy behaviour that’s concerning us all – even Son#1. Actually, Son#1 is VERY upset about all of this and has read his little brother the riot act!

And the headmaster, who is a STUNNING guy, has tried to chat to Son#2 on numerous occasions but, like the rest of us, he’s not connecting at all. This boy just shuts down, he gives NOTHING away and you just cannot read him at all. It’s most distressing and frustrating.

So that’s where we are. It hasn’t been an easy 2 days at all but we’ll get through it. Son#2 is spending tonight with the X and he is going break the news to him. We have no idea how he’ll react. He’ll either get terribly upset and break down, or he’ll just dismiss it and pretend nothing’s wrong. It could go wither way …

Oh man, this is the last thing I wanted for him and it breaks my heart but in all honesty, if he’s not doing the work and not coping, then he must stay back and learn from his mistakes.

  1. po says:

    Shit, sorry to hear it, that is tough news for anyone to deal with.

  2. Jeanette says:

    That’s tough!! Hope he realises that he needs to work harder next year

  3. Chris M says:

    Ah sheesh, that’s not easy to deal with, I hope and pray that everything comes together and sense is made of all of it!

  4. B says:

    It must’ve been a very hard meeting to get through.


  5. JOC says:

    Sorry, that really sucks…….but in all honesty, I really think this is the best thing for son #2 right now. As hard as it’s going to be, I think he needs this “wake up call” to realize that he needs to start working and he’s not just going to pass on that adorable little smile of his :-)

    I really hope that things go better for him next year and obviously I’ll also try my best with him and continue to try and get through to him. Please let me know what else I can do to make this easier on him and you. Lots of love to you all. XxX

  6. cath says:

    God never gives us more than we can handle but holy fuck Sue, he seriously seems to trust you a FUCK load.

    Give Son #2 a huge squeeze for me X

  7. justB[coz] says:

    Oh man, shame … poor little man. I’m sad for him, sad that he has to go through this but at the same time, he has made this happen and so he must learn …

    The X called me last night after he had told him. Apparently he took it quite well … he actually already knew. Can you believe it? Some kids at school had told him the day before that they heard he had failed! And so he got this information and just hoped it wasn’t true. He was carrying all that around with him for more than 24 hours and didn’t tell a soul! Oh my heart.

    I’m SO pissed off that he got to find out from another source – that’s just wrong.

    He seemed ok this morning when I saw him, but you never can tell with him, he can be so guarded. I just pray that he IS alright, although I have my doubts …