It’s my birthday next Saturday.
The start of my 39th year on Planet Earth.
That scares the crap out of me.
I’m looking at where I am now and wondering: “Is this *it* for me?”
Where will I be in 2 years? 5 Years? 10 Years? Am I stuck in this house forever? Will I ever get married again? Will I ever get to travel overseas? Are my best days a thing of the past? Do I have something to look forward to? How do I make the most of my future?
And I don’t know the answers to these questions.
I had dreams and goals once. I dared to believe.
I got handed a bitter mouthful of disappointment to swallow.
So now what?
I have questions galore but no answers and not much faith in dreaming anymore ..
Would be cool to know where I’m going though.
Before I need a Zimmer frame, that is.
I agree … there’s no question that my life changed, unexpectedly and DRAMATICALLY.
It’s taken all my energy over the last 3 years to keep my business going and on a personal level, to just survive – at first from minute to minute, then from hour to hour, followed by day to day …
So this is where I’m at now: I’ve realised that all my previous personal goals are now null and void. The map to making them a reality is now a blank canvas again. I’m not interested in airy fairy “dreams” or any level of vision that does not have some foundation in realism.
I finally have the energy to start thinking about my future seriously and plotting the course I want to take going forward and I’m NOT going to waste it on nonsensical thinking. I’m also not going to set myself up for inevitable disappointment by “dreaming” about shit that clearly isn’t going to happen.
Dreams aside, I need to define my (realistic) goals and make a plan.
You know there are not many things that are certain in life, apart from death and taxes, but there will always be change. It is how we face and handle change that really steers us on the journey of life. We can make changes ourselves but there are also changes that come along that we have no control over. If one is goal orientated in life the trick is to find ways around those changes to reach ones goals..
We’ll have to agree to disagree on this one then … this is just a bunch of babble to me and really doesn’t inspire AT ALL.
Give me real world, practical, working examples with successful end results by people who walk their talk.
“life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly” …? Jeez.
I beg to disagree – the meaning has been taken out of context – Conscious Dreams is what was intended – not subconscious or day dreaming or any other dreaming for that matter!
What we consciously dream of is what we would like to have or achieve in this life and when, without which we would have no goals to set and no hope for the future.
Living in the day for the day is making the most of each day and is no direct contradiction for us having our dreams – just the opposite in fact – having and acting on our dreams only makes the living of and in each day that much better!
Some quotes here relating to the subject which are inspiring.
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau (1817 – 1862)
“The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them. Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams.”
Og Mandino (1923 – 1996)
I dream, I test my dreams against my beliefs, I dare to take risks, and I execute my vision to make those dreams come true.
Walt Disney (1901 – 1966)
Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly.
Langston Hughes
Yeah … dreaming … it’s fun but can also be a pointless waste of time if one doesn’t get past the “wishful thinking” stage and into something more goal-orientated.
Diago, I can totally understand the whole “selfish me time” thing … if I had to deal with crowds everyday, I’d go mental! I’m actaully REALLY bad in crowds so it’s tough for me to be with lots of people but I *know* that if I’m on my own on my birthday that there’s a damn good chance I’ll land up feeling grossly depressed so I’m just going to suck it up and make sure I’m out with loads of people.
Don’t stop dreaming, one has to have dreams otherwise life would be so routine and boring, look forward to your birthday and celebrate hope you have a great one.:)
I am taking the opposite approach. Selfish me time. No one around except my immediate family. I deal with crowds on a regular basis, so special occassions I prefer to be quiet and personal.
I agree Dad … dreams schmeams … pie-in-the-sky, wishy-washy crap. I need a more pragmatic approach to my future … I’m not getting any younger and I don’t want to waste any more time …
Yeah, I guess I’ve come a long way already … I just need to try and create a blueprint for going forward. Some kind of plan or map – the sense of having zero direction is very disturbing and confusing.
Really Diago? Well Happy Early Birthday to you too!
Another Aries Baby 😀
Not sure what I’m going to do for my birthday yet … would be nice to “celebrate” with a whole bunch of people. If I don’t go out and have a good time, I think I’ll just get horribly bummed.
My birthday is coming this Sunday and I am going through the exact same thing at the moment. I can truly relate.
Either way – Happy Early Birthday! Lolz
dreaming
n. having visions and images during sleep; fantasizing, imagining
dream
v. have thoughts and visions while sleeping; indulge in a daydream, imagine; wish for …
I have never liked the word dream or dreaming as used in the comments above. Too airy fairy – wish for, imagine etc.)
I think one needs to have concious ideas for the future and what and where you want to be and then visualise the way to achieve those goals.. Living for the day should just be one of the steps on the journey.
@JustBcoz – you have achieved immensely and are still achieving in spite of many obstacles. I think you have reached many of your goals and will continue to do so.
That’s a contradiction … “never give up on dreams” / “live for the day”
Dreaming is about imagining something unreal.
Living for today is about being grounded in the present.
You can’t do both.
Chris – never a truer word spoken
JustB[coz] – We all live the way our thoughts are projected and this is where the laws of attraction come into play – if you dare to dream big, big things will happen, always. Never give up on dreams, otherwise they’ll give up on you. Don’t worry about where you’ll be in 1,2,5 or even 10 years. The future will take care of itself, live for the day, in the day as this day will come to an end and tomorrow will be history and cannot be changed. Dream, think and act positively in the day, every day and everything will fall into place as they were meant to. xx
Never stop dreaming!